Talk it Out: Your spouse is angry with you. Can you blame him/her? If they are still willing to make the relationship work, the first thing you need to do is talk to them. Tell them why you cheated, what were the marital problems that you were facing and give them the confidence that you will try and set things right. Ask them for time.
Introspect: Introspect and find out what made you cheat. Make a note of all the things lacking in your relationship and see if you can inculcate any of those things in your marriage.
Woo them Back: Woo them back and mean it. Remember the time you were first falling in love?
Re-create that time. Spend time with her, take him out on a date. Forget about the marriage and try and fall in love again.
Winning the Trust Back: You think it’s tough getting over the affair as a cheater? Try being in the other person’s shoes for a while. Their trust is shattered and you’ve caused them immense pain. For now and for as long as it takes, you need to not merely apologize, but work to gain their trust back.
Whatever it takes – with words and actions.
Make Changes: Make changes in the relationship. Ask what she wants you to change. Tell her what you want from the relationship and your sexual life.
The Children: If you have children then start thinking about them. Really thinking. Think about what it’ll do to them if you split or break up. That will deter you from slipping again. Because it is not necessary that your partner will forgive you every time you have an affair. Getting over your affair is not easy for them either.